Tuesday, August 20, 2013

A check in on mommy-hood and nine month photos!


The original inspiration for me to write a blog was my life’s transition into motherhood.  Although my life has taken some crazy turns and transitioned into a travel log of my life in the Dominican Republic, I’d like to revisit being a mom.  The best thing about our move to the Dominican Republic is that it gave me the opportunity to be a stay at home mom!  It’s what I’ve always wanted and I really really love it.  However there are days that are hard and tiring and more often than I thought, even boredom.  I’m lucky to be able to teach some English classes part time because that is the perfect set up for me.  Home for the majority but still the opportunity to go out and work on my own. 

Joaquin is nine months already!  He has his two bottom front teeth and looks like he wants to be an early walker but we’ll see!  He walks around hanging onto furniture and can stand without holding onto things for about 5 seconds.  Joaquin has been eating all kinds of new foods and since he can eat more chunky things than purees, I’ve found the genius idea of canned veggies since most of my cooking endeavors are still…well…I’m working on it.  Joaquin is babbling lots and says baba, mama and today I may have heard nana.  I’d like to say mama was his first real word but I don’t count it because it’s not associated with me.  It’s associated with whatever he wants.  He just screams mama all day…not as lovely as I thought it would be hearing that word but of course anytime he talks is adorable. He still LOVES the pool and we go swimming almost every day.  One thing that is tough here about being a stay at home mom is that I don’t have a car so if I need to run errands I have to take a taxi and carry Joaquin around in his car seat.  Joaquin is already 24 pounds at 9 months so this is getting harder to do.  Needing a taxi means it’s also harder to take Joaquin on outings like a walk around the mall or a trip to the zoo but let’s be honest, it would be much too hot to walk around a zoo for long and those outings would be more for me and my need to get out of the house. Luckily Joaquin’s favorite thing is the pool and we can do that right here at home anytime.

I feel like Joaquin changes every month!  I remember hitting a five-month slump where I did feel boredom because I just didn’t have a lot of activities to do with a five month old. Now he’s nine months and I feel more tired than I ever did when he was a newborn because he’s just so active and loves to be chased, dance, play peek a boo and everything that makes mommy tired.  But I do have to say I think this age is so much more fun!  I’m nervous for Joaquin to start walking because he already loves opening drawers and cupboards when he drives around in his little baby walker and he still puts everything in his mouth.  I guess I’ve finally got some baby proofing to do! 

Another thing about my little 9-month old has been happening for quite a while.  This baby is regular!  It never fails that every morning when he wakes up, we go into his room and find a poopy diaper.  At least fifty percent of the time it’s a blow out.  “The best part of waking up…” How does this keep happening?!  It’s happened in several brands of diapers.  Speaking of Joaquin waking up, we are also enjoying a baby that sleeps through the night.  He goes down around 8 or 8:30 and is up between 6:30 and 7…honestly anything before 7 is rough so maybe one day…but I can’t complain when I have an all night sleeper.  He was a good sleeper in the beginning of his life but then we hit a rough patch around 4-6 months with the transition of moving and letting him sleep with us.  After some tough nights of letting him “cry it out,” we found success and now he just loves his crib in his room! 

I have to tell you I think I’m ready for Joaquin to have a little brother or sister but we won’t be trying for that just yet.  I can only imagine a toddler and a baby will be quite the challenge but I’m just so excited for Joaquin to have someone else to play with...although it will be months after the second baby is even born before the new baby can even do anything. ;)

Here are some photos from Joaquin’s nine-month photo session that we took ourselves at the monument in Santiago.  We don’t often use a professional photographer because we have a professional camera and have lots of fun doing the photos ourselves.  


Rolling down the hill






Check out that expression looking at the stone man!


Joaquin loves his cousin Manny!
With the family (Jesus' aunt Lala, me, Joaquin and cousin Manny)




A photo with the love of my life...granted the cheesiness of this photo is unrealistic because we do not do piggy backs often!

Peek a boo!
Pinterest shot
Cute or awkward family photo???

Yes!  I got a kiss from the squirmy one who hates to be held!  I used to think it was gross to kiss my baby on the mouth with all of his saliva...babys were a new world for me and now look at me!






Monday, August 12, 2013

Things I mss vs. Things I have


The past few weeks have been a bit homesick for us but rather than writing a blog post full of my complaints I decided to simply make a list of things I miss and things I have.   I feel that overall I keep my blog pretty positive but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t get hard living in a foreign place from time to time. I think a list of what I miss and what I have will help center me back to this being my home and make me feel better.  I’ve already spent enough time complaining verbally to a few friends. Yes I know it’s ok to complain and I know it’s ok for things to not always be peachy but right now I just need to make a list.

But before that...there's just one thing I need to blog for the sake of my own fascination that does not apply to my list. I’ve been trying to drop 10-15 pounds and it’s tough because I have lost some weight but lately it seems to all be coming back.  You really have to work at hard at this apparently!  So with my internal struggle of getting back to pre-pregnancy weight, I’ve fell into the trap of comparing myself to other women.  Mainly comparing my gut because that’s what I want to lose….it’s so hard!  So anyway I’ve noticed all of the women here have small waists but huge hips, butts and thighs!  I don’t understand how everyone has this same body type!  Well not everyone obviously but it’s common.  Jesus told me it’s genetic of Dominican women so I guess that could be it.  I just really needed to share that observation because I find it fascinating!  

Now back to curing my homesickness. Although I wouldn't call it homesickness as much as realizing I miss the US because I prefer living there.  It doesn't mean it's bad here because if you know me, you know Jesus and I have jumped right in and started a good life for ourselves here.  It simply means I have a preference and this list helps me focus on what I have here while not in my preferred place.




Things I miss
Things I have
Pandora internet radio
Bachata and Merengue musica at any hour my heart desires 


Car
Most necessities like pharmacy and grocery store are in walking distance and I don’t have to put gas in a car as it’s much more expensive than in the US.
Sushi
Restaurant delivery, not just pizza and Chinese, but everything from salmon, hamburgers and dessert. And we have two favorite restaurants we’ll miss when we go being Noah and Tablon! Here’s a photo of their Burrata salad that Jesus gets every time taken from TripAdvisor.co 

Safety
A handful of trusted taxi drivers to take me around
Sweaters and blue jeans
Fashion of the islands; color, color and more color and constant warmth so no need for sweaters
Milk (t’s not the same)
A new enjoyment for almond milk (still not that good but I feel healthy drinking it)
A clothes Dryer
A clothesline that makes me feel authentic 


Carpet
Beautiful tile floors and a really awesome teal rug (I sure hope I can fit that in a suitcase when I move back.) 


Target
Nothing is comparable to Target…there are super stores but they’re more like a Wal-Mart and they’re not even cheap so for Target…I have nothing.
My independence (Everything I want to do I’m told is too dangerous especially as an American Woman with money or the appearance of; that along with no car pretty much takes away a lot of my independence)
A cleaning lady once a week, someone to take my trash out and other amenities in my apartment that I don’t need to be independent for
Not being heckled by devious men on a simple walk
Friends who are willing to walk with me
Target diapers
A Price Smart, which is the same as a Costco, so at least I can but the name brands in bulk to save a little
Not being afraid of being ripped off or robbed from (We haven't been robbed but I've been ripped off enough!)
Super extra fancy apartment security! Here's a view from my deck and the entrance gate and security guard are down the hill to the right.


Hawaiian rolls at the grocery store
Pan De Mantequilla from the coolest grocery store, Bravo! (Rumor has it Bravo is owned by Mormons although who knows if they live here.)
Obedience to the laws of driving
Benefit of not having car
Teaching and working full time
I’m a stay at home mom and that can’t be beat and I teach English part time so I’m keeping my foot in the door.


Good ice cream (again it’s the different milk here)
The best macaroons at the bakery down the block, photo taken from Lacampagna.do


Not being taken advantage of although most people that do it don’t realize that’s what’s happening.
Feeling needed, so needed that I could be busy every night of the week if I wanted but I don’t want that. I need my family time.
Change of the seasons
A pool to cool me off any time