Sunday, February 7, 2016

We are not alone.

On this beautiful Sabbath morning, I thought I'd share the talk I gave in church last week.  It has some beautiful quotes and scripture.

Often times in our life we notice coincidences or times we just got lucky or we write on social media, #blessed.  But today I’m telling you it’s more than that.  I want to illustrate how the Lord has had a hand in my life . He is with us every step of the way through both our trying times and our good times.  It’s important that we show gratitude and ackowledge his hand.

Psalm 100 speaks about gratitude really beautifully
 1 Make a joyful noise unto the Lord, all ye lands.
 2 Serve the Lord with gladness: come before his presence with singing.
 3 Know ye that the Lord he is God: it is he that hath made us, and not we ourselves; we are his people, and the sheep of his pasture.
 4 Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, and into his courts with praise: be thankful unto him, and bless his name.
 5 For the Lord is good; his mercy is everlasting; and his truth endureth to all generations.

Some time over 5 years ago, I received a job offer to teach at a little red brick school in the mountains.  I was at an inner city elementary school teaching in Minneapolis at the time and was ready for a slower change of pace.  At the same time, I had just begun dating a new guy.  I flew out for my interview and was really in love with this school and the mountains that I didn’t have where I’m from in MN.  As I flew home from my interview on the plane, I sat next to this woman and I told  her all about my interview AND about the guy I was dating and how he was conflicting my decision to take this great job.  She told me I would feel peace in which decision I made.  She told me, “I think you already know what to do.”  Well, I was not about to give up my dream job for some guy…but I felt no peace in accepting that position.  I stayed in MN and continued dating this guy and then we got married! I emailed this woman on the plane to tell her what happened because I knew she’d be ecstatic but she never wrote back.  I’ve even searched for her on facebook like a creepy little stalker. I never found her or heard from her again even though we exchanged contact info on that plane.  I swear now she was an angel sent to sit with me and tell me “that I would feel peace in my decision.”  I learned that the Lord doesn’t want me to be confused and I was confused about taking that job and I wasn’t confused about marrying my husband. 

Elder Scott has taught us that sometimes our decisions can be made with a confirming assurance. He said: “you can feel the peace, comfort, and assurance that confirm that your decision is right.”

So my husband and I lived the American dream and bought a brand new beautiful home, got a dog, had a baby, etc.  And then my husband randomly saw a job opening in the Dominican Republic, the country where he was born.  Now who’s going to just up and leave to a third world country with a  three month old baby and both of us had jobs in Minnesota that we would need to quit?  Just apply for fun, just interview and see, we thought, no big deal.  And then we got the offer!  How were we going to quit both our jobs?  I was a teacher on maternity leave at the time!  You can’t just quit on maternity leave. What were we going to do with our new house and all of our furniture?  It was much too expensive to ship back and forth between countries.  Then,  a family in our ward offered to rent our home while we were living abroad and if that wasn’t a sign to go, I don’t know what is.  Both our jobs understood the opportunity and told us we were welcome back anytime.  It truly felt like the Lord was making a way for us to take this opportunity.

President Hinckley has said: I too believe that God will always make a way where there is no way. I believe that if we will walk in obedience to the commandments of God, if we will follow the counsel of the priesthood, He will open a way even where there appears to be no way.”

Once we got to Domincan Republic, it was tremendously hard.  I didn’t speak much Spanish (I do now) , I was not a student, I was not a missionary.  I was a woman with a new baby who had to learn how to live in a 3rd word country with no Target store to buy my neccessities and where I didn’t speak the language.  I had to learn where to grocery shop, how to pay bills, how to get around walking, by taxi or in the public cars that crammed as many people in as they could without seatbelts all with my small baby while my husband went to work.  How could I make friends when I couldn’t even communicate?  I cried a lot.  As time went on, our ward became the greatest blessing in our life.  I was called to YW and had to teach…in Spanish!  I taught English classes to the community.  Another young womens leader became my best friend and she practically brought me tracting through the city each Sunday to visit the young women in their homes.  I became happy by doing service.

I learned I can do hard things living there. 

Phillipians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

But the best part was for as much service as I did that helped me find happiness, the people there served me more. I needed them.  I needed my possy of youth to walk me home every night after mutual or English class after dark.  I needed friends from the ward to come over and have FHE with us.  They took us in, they helped us with whatever we needed when they had so little .  They had tiny homes where you could see the rafters holding the roof up from the inside, concrete floors and curtains hanging for a bedroom door.  Yet they were some of the happiest people I’ll ever know. I was a changed person because of their humility and gratefulness to the Father.

Richard C. Edgely reminds us: “Yes, the strength of the Church is in the millions of humble members striving every day to do the will of the Savior—day by day, one step at a time. These humble members come from all nationalities, all social strata, and every economic background. They include those of the highest educational backgrounds as well as those of the humblest who live in the smallest hamlets in the most remote areas of the world—all having hearts throbbing with a vital testimony of Jesus Christ and a desire to serve the Lord.”

Now finally I’ll tell you, how did we end up in Texas?  After living in the Dominican Republic, we returned to MN for a year and a half and quickly rememberd  how cold Minnesota was.  So we thought and thought about states all over the country that were warm and Texas made the list! There are better housing prices and lower taxes here in comparison as well.  Dallas is a huge city with a great food scene so…why not?  Why not move to Texas?  This decision did not feel as “led” as the Dominican Republic decision but our prayer became, “just stop this if it isn’t right”.  Well we’re here and haven’t fallen flat on our faces yet so I think the Lord is ok with it and there is a reason.  We did not have a job re-locating us here or school or anything.  We just wanted to come so we both applied to jobs until one of us found something, we got an apartment and here we are!  And so far, we really love it here!

Jeffrey R. Holland has said: “God expects you to have enough faith and determination and enough trust in Him to keep moving, keep living, keep rejoicing. In fact, He expects you not simply to face the future (that sounds pretty grim and stoic); He expects you to embrace and shape the future--to love it and rejoice in it and delight in your opportunities. God is anxiously waiting for the chance to answer your prayers and fulfill your dreams, just as He always has. But He can't if you don't pray, and He can't if you don't dream. In short, He can't if you don't believe.”

It was a leap of faith for us to be here and still feels that way as not everything in our plan to be here is figured out yet but we have faith it will be soon.

Sometimes God answers prayers with no response.  Elder Richard G. Scott has said: When you are living worthily and your choice is consistent with the Savior’s teachings and you need to act,” proceed with trust.”

All in all, The Lord knows us and he knows it will be ok even when we don’t.  We have had to put our faith in the Lord through this move as we were a little spontaneous but the prayer of asking the Lord to stop this if it isn’t right has been helpful because it hasn’t been stopped.

Dieter F. Uchtdorf has said:
Brothers and sisters, the most powerful Being in the universe is the Father of your spirit. He knows you. He loves you with a perfect love.

With all stories I just told, there is no way for this not to be true in my life!  Heavenly Father is the Father of my spirit.  I am his.  He loves me. And I say these things in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.



Thursday, February 4, 2016

Decorating Dallas

I've got a long way to go before becoming the designer of my dreams but I sure have fun practicing each time I move.  Some of the key words I wanted to incorporate in our Dallas apartment were: modern, open, functional, industrial, clean, and comfortable.  I wanted the home to say, "for adults but kids live here." The motto for our stuff has been, if there is no place for it, it can't stay.  And finally, I wanted to include my husband in our decorating.  I have dreams of more bling and glam in my design but that doesn't really fit Jesus so we agreed on most things together (minus the cow pillow in the living room...I think the thought of living in Texas made me buy that!).  I'm not saying I accomplished all of my key words like a pro but I do like what we have come up with.  

Want to see?!


The main living area is where I really imagined some of my key words from above.  I'm particularly happy with the children's book/toy storage from Ikea because of the modern, shiny white shelving and those baskets! My couch pillows just came today from Amazon and that makes me happy too (even...no, I mean especially, the cow!)






The dining area:  I needed something above that pass through window so I found that cute little "love more" sign matching the arrow pattern of my couch pillows.  I love the industrial, steel looking dining chairs from Target. And I'm pleased with the photos on the wall of our family and the Santo Domingo, LDS Temple.



Bedroom: Right now it looks straight out of a furniture store but I think some accent pillows on the bed and maybe some art above the headboard will perk it right up one day.  The design blogs and Pinterest say all the rage is to get pieces that aren't matchy matchy but with moving so much, I ain't got time for that and just wanted something done! For now, I love how masculine this room looks as this was one of the rooms I especially paid attention to Jesus's ideas and not just mine.  Also, our kids are all up in our life 24/7 so I wanted the bedroom to be a reminder of just Jesus and I so when you notice the pictures, notice the no kids allowed.






The kid's room could use some design but for now it's white, simple, has space to play, and includes the drawings of each of child at one month. Remember before Joaquin was born, I designed that awesome nursery, painted the crib blue, re-finished the dresser etc. etc. (with the help of my friends)?  Well, after moving so much, I just didn't have time for that this time around. Khaleesi got the shaft in decorating but I like this simple apartment room she shares with her brother with matching beds...again I say one day, for when I go all out on a kid's room again!



Bathroom: Double vanities and some pics on the wall from Dominican Republic, what more could I want?!  A modern tile walk in shower? Sure but that's beside the point.  Our apartment is pretty old but they've done a nice job updating it with granite counters and faux wood floors.


Those are indeed Texas stars holding up that shower curtain,

Kitchen: I didn't do any decorating in here but don't the white cupboards and granite counters pretty the place up?