Monday, December 30, 2013

USA Christmas Vacation

“I just want to taste everything!”  This was one of the first things Jesus said to me during our trip to Miami.  I had this same feeling for weeks leading up to our Christmas vacation.  The both of us wanted to buy and taste everything so we really had to pace ourselves and our wallets.  We had so so much fun this trip!  We stayed with Jesus’ aunt and uncle just outside of Fort Lauderdale along with his cousin Eli and his kids and his cousin Uki and his girffriend Karen.  The two bedroom house was packed!  We did so many cool things together!   It feels like too much to list but to name a few, we rode an airboat in the evergaldes, walked on South Beach, shopped at the malls and Best Buy and then Best Buy again, ate sushi and then ate sushi again, ate thai food, seafood and fancy cheese, walked on the pier/boardwalk, visited several beaches, went to the Seminole Hard Rock and even made a day trip to Orlando!

Miami Beach



 
Florida gator
Ready to ride the airboat
One of many sushi experiences


Cute!
Trending at South Beach

Joaquin wasn't scared of anyone in costume!

In front of the Dominican display at a Christmas program


Outside of historic landmark Viscaya
Rare to see my serious husband being silly in public!



Orlando was very special because we met up with Martin and Katy, some of our best Minnesota friends! We got to spend time with their sweet little twins who are 9 months now.  We walked around downtown Disney and had Italian food together for dinner.  The day went by much too quickly because so much of it was spent stuck in Orlando Christmas tourist traffic.  I learned my lesson to not go to Orlando at Christmas again…but still every minute of it was worth it to see our best friends!  We just love them so much and were so happy they were visting Florida the same week as us!

Spencer, Madi and Joaquin!

Spencer and Joaquin at the splash pad
My favorite!
I find that living in the Dominican Republic and the US are like night and day and it’s true that you don’t know what you got ‘til it’s gone.  I almost forgot how different things were until I left and came back.  There is so much in the United States I took for granted!  The first thing I noticed once back in the US was the level of cleanliness and maintenance of yards, streets, etc.  I remembered what it was like to be in a car driving around as a family with our baby safely buckled in his carseat.  In the DR we have to taxi or walk and drag the carseat everywhere. Since he is now in the convertible carseat that no longer fits in strollers, it’s quite the task to bring him out.  However I do walk a lot there and while it’s scorching hot even in the winter, I’ve become accustomed to putting my groceries  or whatever I need in the bottom of Joaquin’s stroller and trekking along.  Other things taken for granted in the US are road safety and the obedience of laws.  Do you know in the Dominican Republic you do not have to turn in the turn lane?  You can cut the whole turn lane off and just turn from any point in the road.  It’s normal and is not enforced as being illegal.  That’s just one example of how difficult driving is there.  While we were stuck in back to back traffic in Orlando, that didn’t compare to the amount of crowdedness and traffic in the DR.  I’ve even taken for granted the ability to pull over during a road trip to buy water for the baby or to go pee.  When traveling on the “highway” in the DR, you can’t just pull over.  Gas stations are few and far between so pee before you leave and you better have everything you need prepared.  Not that road trips in the DR aren’t their own experience with the fruit stands, people selling candies on the side of the road and the restaurants to stop at with fresh food cooked right out of people’s homes. 

Many people that we’ve visited here have commented on how brave I am for making this decision to live in the Dominican Republic with my family.  These particular people happen to be Dominican but have have become Americanized and recognize with me that it really is night and day.  I love the people, the rain and a lot of things in the Dominican Republic but let’s be honest, I like convenience in America and I never had dreams of living internationally.  If I was single or studying abroad things might be different, but it isn’t the easiest of places to raise a baby and have no car.  However it’s an experience we will never forget and are counting our blessings.  While a large part of me would like to just stay here in Florida, another part of me is ready to return home to a routine and structure in my life.  I have English classes to teach, a church calling to fulfill, my little puppy and I want to see my friends!  It’s good that I recognize that I live there and being here in the US is now vacation.


Oh I can’t forget to note about Christmas!  Jesus’ aunt cooks the best Dominica food, actually she can cook everything.  We had some traditional Dominican items and a ham for me just like my mom makes with pineapple on top.  After dinner we danced the night away starting with Merengue and bachata but finishing with American hip hop.  And the best was Joaquin opening presents!  When we clapped, he clapped too with the biggest smile!  And who doesn’t love a baby rnuning around in new pajamas each night?!  We are flying home on New Years Eve during midnight and celebrating New Years on the plane.  Domincans always clap when the plane lands so we are pretty sure they’ll have fun ringing in the new year on board as well!






Sunday, December 29, 2013

A medical update


The above link: "My miracle baby" will be necessary for this update.

Once again in my life, I left the doctor’s office in tears.  I kind of hate going to the doctor here.  There are no appointments and it’s all first come first serve so I have spent countless hours waiting in line for appointments and insurance questions while everything has been in Spanish and it’s all been a bit stressful.  For the past ten months I have been waiting to receive a test to see if my left fallopian tube works before having abother baby, because we know Joaquin was born completely on the right side of my uterine septum.  I was meant to get the test in MN but ended up sitting alone in a hospital gown afraid of the pain of the test only to be told my doctor was called into emergency surgery and couldn’t complete it.   Then my family moved to the Domincan Republic. After insurance leading us to believe they would pay for this test after 6 months of my arrival here, they now told us they wouldn’t pay at all because it’s a pre-exisiting condition.  Jesus and I decided to foot the bill and my doctor said I could just show up for the test at 7:30 in the morning and it would be done.  Well I showed up at the lab and not only did they say I needed an “imaginary” appointment, but they said the machine was broken.  This test can only be done one day out of the month so now I’m moving onto month 10 of not getting it done and not knowing what to do in regards to any surgery.

Luckily both the Doctor in Minnesota and the Doctor in the Domincan Republic recommended the same thing  for surgery.  That I do not remove the uterine septum, since I had a successful pregancy, because at this point it can do more harm than good. They both suggested I remove the part of the septum that makes my life with Jesus uncomfortable.  You can fill in the blanks.  I decided I really wanted the recommended surgery but just wanted the tube test first to make sure they didn’t need to do anything else while they were working on me. 

This whole process of any potential surgery is taking way too long and I'm tired of waiting for when I can even start trying to have baby number 2. While it's kind of breaking my heart, I know I shouldn’t complain because Joaquin is the greatest blessing in my life!

So I emailed my doctor the drama of the visit to the lab for the test (and the drama of the past 10 months) and suggessted I do everything in the US when insurance will pay. She said that's fine and maybe I'll have a great pregnancy just like the last!  Can I just say that I love my doctor here?  It’s the medical system that has problems but not her.  She knew more about my case then my US Doctor and put me at so much ease because it’s so common here!

If we do have a baby here, I am frustrated that for every pregnancy appointment, I may be in line for two or more hours. It’s also scary that we don't have a clear timeline on when we're moving back to the US but all in all none of these are excuses to not have another baby.  I always dreamed of having five kids but now that dream has shrunk to three and now with the high risk pregnancies I'll have from here on out, I don't want to shrink my dream anymore. There are high risks of pre-term labors and miscarriages with a uterine septum and while that’s scary, if I had one baby successfully I can have another right?!
  

Sunday, December 1, 2013

Thanksgiving on the Island

Jesus and I had been toying with the idea of hosting an American Thanksgiving at our home or taking the weekend he had off work to go to a local resort.  As much as I wanted to cook, the resort won out.  We went to the Riu Merengue in Puerto Plata.  This resort was so nice!  Sometimes I wish I lived on the beach.  If I had to make one complaint...just one...I'd say the beds were super un-comfy but the resort wasn't designed for you to be sitting inside. It had a large pool with a kiddy pool for Joaquin.  It also had a very large beach which was nice and clean and a little Caribbean street (Calle Caribeno) full of shops and souvenirs.  It was all inclusive so all our meals were paid for and you could eat pretty much whenever you wanted as well as unlimited pina coladas.  And while it was no use to us Mormons, even the rooms were stocked with unlimited alcohol.  Over they years Jesus has taught me to be cautious of buffets.  He always reminds me of how long the food may have been chilling outside and whether or not is is fresh.  However the buffets here did not disappoint, even for Jesus!  The breakfast was so good and the international dinner as well!  And dinner was different each night making it extra fun.  OK OK if I had to make one other complaint...around 11:00 pm one night, Jesus sent me out to check out what they had for snacks.  This is where the food HAD been chilling!  It was lunch's leftover pizza and hotdogs and it definitely did not taste fresh.  I'm pretty sure it was snacks for all the people who partied a little too hard and had some kind of munchies.  Needless to say the trash in our hotel room's bathroom smelled like hotdogs and poopy diapers the rest of the night.  But again, the breakfast and dinner buffets were fresh and delicious!  It was interesting to meet the tourists at the hotel.  Joaquin was outnumbered by all of the Eastern European grandparents but that kept things nice and calm for the little guy.  The resort had lots of activities including, kayaks, jet skis, volleyball, horseshoes, aerobics and whatever else but we split our time between eating, the beach and the pool.  It was so relaxing and so perfect!  I'd recommend this place for a vaca to the Dominican Republic if you are in need!

first sand castles
mountains

no fear
the pool



coconut tree
what a view!


the resort housing

love!

So many nice people offering to take a picture of the tree of us, we didn't even have to ask!


My husband's a good photographer 


I've never seen a tree in this country without leaves!  I guess every tree needs to bud...

Dessert buffet...need I say more?

My Haitian tourist braids!

These two love to play!

So cute!


Turns out my cooking endeavors and showing off an American turkey got to happen as well!  Everyone in my English class I teach at the church, chipped in a few pesos so that I could buy a turkey for them! We had turkey, stuffing and pumpkin pie.  I didn't want  to fork out any more cash to make any more than that so it was just a sampling of the American tradition and I think we hit the main points.  The celebration went so well.  I gave a brief, very brief, history of where the holiday came from and then we all took turns saying one thing we're grateful for.  I told them how grateful I was for them.  I teach this class week after week without a steady curriculum, coming up with so much on my own.  I don't know if they are learning it and most don't even have an opportunity to use English but still they come.  Their desire to learn is so special and they come, even when it's me, just volunteering to do what I can.  Some of the students even said they were grateful for me and that too was very special.