For some reason lately Jesus and I have been short with each other and have started lose our patience for the silliest of reasons. We've both been under high amounts of stress with the recent changes in our life and I think we both have this need to feel extra supported right now. Within our 2.5 years of marriage we've both changed jobs, bought a brand new home, bought a dog, got rid of our dog, had a baby, rented out our new home, and moved to a new country just to name a few of our changes. Although it's normal for Jesus and I to undergo rapid change it's bound to take a toll at some point and I think that's what's happening.
Last night we had a little heart to heart and decided we needed to do something because we clearly felt unwanted tension between us as husband and wife. We figured out that things would usually begin when Jesus came home from work. I would talk his ear off and if the playstation got turned on before I was done rambling about my day things would spiral out of control from there. Jesus doesn't play too many video games by any means but he does enjoy a little NBA2k13 to wind down after his stressful job. If I complain about the Playstation then I am instantly called out for use of my Iphone to check Facebook or Pinterest. These complaints about each other only lead to more complaints sadly and it's all rather unfair to the both of us. I want attention, he wants to relax and we needed a solution! We decided that for the next 30 days for 30 minutes when Jesus returns from work we would be sure to turn off all electronics meaning no TV, no Netflix, no Playstation, no Email, no internet, no Facebook and possibly most importantly no CELLPHONES! Although I came up with this idea, Jesus assured me that he agreed this was a good plan and we were both very willing to try. This also may sound pathetic: "Really you can't go 30 minutes without electronics?" While that may be true....it's more of an issue of 30 minutes at the same time where our sole focus needs to be on each other and our family.
Day 1: Jesus walked in the door from work while the baby was napping and I was catching up on Season 2 of Revenge on my computer. Jesus immediately closed my computer, sat on the bed with me and we began talking about our days. I obviously had forgotten our arrangement but was so happy he reminded me. It honestly was so nice to just talk about our days and not feel like there was some pressing issue on our phones or computers we needed to attend to. Although the minute the clock struck 30, Jesus jumped on his computer for something and the whole thing obviously felt forced. In spite of that, it really was more than enjoyable to have time strictly devoted to each other. Gosh I feel pathetic because other couples probably always have time specifically for each other without even trying. After an hour I left to teach one of my English classes and came home to being warmly greeted by both Jesus and my baby. Jesus and I talked even more although we did catch a video on youtube. It felt like even more specific attention was being paid to me. Was it because of our new arrangement? Was I just more appreciative? I don't know but wouldn't it be great if I continue to see progress like this for the next 30 days?! Gosh I love my husband and am happy we are trying a solution to relieve a little stress in our home!
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